I know. :\ I figured that's what the answer would be.
You're right though...I have a feeling that something would happen between us if I went. I know she would at least try to make a move. The problem is, part of me wants that, even though I know she's wrong for me, especially at this point in time. I want to be with Annie, but I am drawn to Jenny, and part of me really wants her.
Well take Annie out of the equation. Being with Jenny in any capacity is a bad idea for YOU and your sobriety. She is unstable and that is why she is pulling all this crap. If she truly cared about anyone but herself she would be trying to maintain a healthy, balanced relationship and should be approaching it with caution and concern. She is playing games and I wish I could snap you out of her little web!!!
Yeah, I know you're right. And yeah, she definitely still has me wrapped around her finger. But it's so hard to break away. Part of me wants her back, but I KNOW that would be a bad thing.
Why don't you call her bf and go together as a united front? I know that sounds amazingly strange but it will keep her from making a move on you and enforce a boundary. Don't forget, he is still her bf. How would you feel if the rolls were reversed?
This is the fucked up part...the roles WERE reversed. It's a complicated situation. She and Justin were married, and they divorced a few years ago. They were separated, but Jenny filed for divorce after she met me, and we started dating. Then, when Jenny and I got divorced she cheated on me with Justin (the ex-husband). So yeah...I've been on the other side.
I don't know how Justin and I are friendly after that.
She left me because she said she was still in love with him, but now she claims she's still in love with me. It's like she only wants what she can't have.
She is going to flip flop whenever she feels like it. I'm sorry you and your emotions are involved. She wants you now because she made a mistake dating him but then when things are good between you two, he'll be there to sweep her off her feet again. Can we please avoid this continuous cycle. PLEASE!!!
I'm sarah88bella. You can message me anytime you want. I see to be glued to my laptop lately. So YOU can make the first move if you ever want to talk through there! :D
I think that youre feeling this way for a reason. Do you think you two would be "right" together after she is clean and sober? She will probably be a whole new person. I think your best bet is to play it safe and stay away from THAT type of relationship with both Jenny and Annie. You can still be there and support Jenny but let her know your boundaries and where you stand. It will never be fair to Annie- or ANYONE to be in a relationship when you're still so drawn to her. Yes, you will always be connected and have a connection because you were together for so long and have a child together... but being drawn to her is different. i don't know if I'm making any sense. I hope so.
I don't know if I think we'd be right together. I thought we WERE right together, but things changed. I don't know. A huge part of me still wants to be with her.
I agree with you...it's not fair to be in a relationship with Annie (or anyone) while I'm still so drawn to Jenny.
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Date: 2008-08-13 04:55 am (UTC)You're right though...I have a feeling that something would happen between us if I went. I know she would at least try to make a move. The problem is, part of me wants that, even though I know she's wrong for me, especially at this point in time. I want to be with Annie, but I am drawn to Jenny, and part of me really wants her.
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Date: 2008-08-13 05:13 am (UTC)I don't know how Justin and I are friendly after that.
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Date: 2008-08-13 05:30 am (UTC)I'm not on at the moment though.
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Date: 2008-08-13 06:28 pm (UTC)I agree with you...it's not fair to be in a relationship with Annie (or anyone) while I'm still so drawn to Jenny.