xxmadsenxx | (no subject)

as if I need to say this, no. Let her bf go.

That's the thing...she called me and asked me earlier and I said I'd tell her if she called me in the morning. She hasn't told him about it lol. She wanted me to come. It seems kind of odd to me, and was going to ask him to come if I didn't. I know that should be a red flag...but yeah, I don't know.

I can't type right now. I meant "she was goint to ask him..." I left out words. Sorry.

BAD!!! Stay away from the stress. You don't need this. She needs to be turning to her bf right now and the fact she hasn't even told him further proves her motives. This should be a no brainer.

I know. :\ I figured that's what the answer would be.

You're right though...I have a feeling that something would happen between us if I went. I know she would at least try to make a move. The problem is, part of me wants that, even though I know she's wrong for me, especially at this point in time. I want to be with Annie, but I am drawn to Jenny, and part of me really wants her.

Well take Annie out of the equation. Being with Jenny in any capacity is a bad idea for YOU and your sobriety. She is unstable and that is why she is pulling all this crap. If she truly cared about anyone but herself she would be trying to maintain a healthy, balanced relationship and should be approaching it with caution and concern. She is playing games and I wish I could snap you out of her little web!!!

Yeah, I know you're right. And yeah, she definitely still has me wrapped around her finger. But it's so hard to break away. Part of me wants her back, but I KNOW that would be a bad thing.

Why don't you call her bf and go together as a united front? I know that sounds amazingly strange but it will keep her from making a move on you and enforce a boundary. Don't forget, he is still her bf. How would you feel if the rolls were reversed?

This is the fucked up part...the roles WERE reversed. It's a complicated situation. She and Justin were married, and they divorced a few years ago. They were separated, but Jenny filed for divorce after she met me, and we started dating. Then, when Jenny and I got divorced she cheated on me with Justin (the ex-husband). So yeah...I've been on the other side.

I don't know how Justin and I are friendly after that.

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She left me because she said she was still in love with him, but now she claims she's still in love with me. It's like she only wants what she can't have.

She is going to flip flop whenever she feels like it. I'm sorry you and your emotions are involved. She wants you now because she made a mistake dating him but then when things are good between you two, he'll be there to sweep her off her feet again. Can we please avoid this continuous cycle. PLEASE!!!

Haha I know, you're right.

**I meant we got divorced after she cheated on me with Justin. Not before, obviously. Haha.

Random question: Do you have an instant messaging accounts? I'm just trying to make it easier since we go back and forth a bit on your posts.

I have AIM. My name is xxcmadsenxx...basically the same as my name here. I know, I'm creative, haha.

I'm not on at the moment though.

I'm sarah88bella. You can message me anytime you want. I see to be glued to my laptop lately. So YOU can make the first move if you ever want to talk through there! :D

Thank you. I will. :)

Looking forward to it! :)

I think that youre feeling this way for a reason. Do you think you two would be "right" together after she is clean and sober? She will probably be a whole new person. I think your best bet is to play it safe and stay away from THAT type of relationship with both Jenny and Annie. You can still be there and support Jenny but let her know your boundaries and where you stand. It will never be fair to Annie- or ANYONE to be in a relationship when you're still so drawn to her. Yes, you will always be connected and have a connection because you were together for so long and have a child together... but being drawn to her is different. i don't know if I'm making any sense. I hope so.

I don't know if I think we'd be right together. I thought we WERE right together, but things changed. I don't know. A huge part of me still wants to be with her.

I agree with you...it's not fair to be in a relationship with Annie (or anyone) while I'm still so drawn to Jenny.

Don't you dare, Chris. Come in my room. I don't want to talk to you through the computer. Get your ass in here now!

Start paying me rent and THEN I'll take orders from you. ;) Haha j/k.

I definitely feel this is a bad idea right now. Maybe eventually.. but not yet.

Yeah, I think you're right. :\

I'll just echo what everyone else said. I think you know what's best.

Danger, Will Robinson! *arms flailing*

But really, that's a bad idea.

Actually there´s no need to tell a 10th time that it´s a bad idea, but... it´s a bad idea. You shouldn´t visit her until you have sorted things out and feel stronger.
It´s not that she´s alone, there are people who care about her, I mean, that´s what rehab´s for, and she has a boyfriend. I can understand that it´s easier for her to talk with you because you can relate to all the things, but under all the circumstances you better back down a little bit. And take time to care about yourself.

I hope this doesn't come in too late... but NO. She needs to do this on her own and she is obviously using you as a crutch

I'm gonna disagree with everyone here. I say go. Because she needs you. You have been in her shoes and know what she is dealing with- go as support.. to motivate her that she can pull through this. If she starts talking about her feeling for you or anything that makes you uncomfortable- simply tell her now is not the time and place- and when she gets out of rehab you will discuss it. She may just be feeling all these emotions and acting like this because she is out of her comfort zone and making a big life change. Don't walk away from her when now is the time she needs you the most. Thats just my opinion though.. only you know whats the right thing to do in your heart.