I think that youre feeling this way for a reason. Do you think you two would be "right" together after she is clean and sober? She will probably be a whole new person. I think your best bet is to play it safe and stay away from THAT type of relationship with both Jenny and Annie. You can still be there and support Jenny but let her know your boundaries and where you stand. It will never be fair to Annie- or ANYONE to be in a relationship when you're still so drawn to her. Yes, you will always be connected and have a connection because you were together for so long and have a child together... but being drawn to her is different. i don't know if I'm making any sense. I hope so.